If you don’t want your vows to come out of someone else’s book, it’s a fantastic gesture to write your own.
Writing your own vows puts a more personal spin on the ceremony and gives you the opportunity to declare your love to not only your partner, but to the loved ones you’ve invited to share in the moment.
Be sure your partner is on the same page with this so there are no surprises. It will be more uniform and provide better flow during your wedding if you both create the vows yourselves, rather than only one of you taking this on. There’s no need to read your partner’s vows before the wedding, but it’s a good idea to ensure you have similar structure and visions for the vows. Decide on a date to have them both done so no one is writing them the night before.
Most likely you will meet with your officiant before the actual ceremony so be sure they are aware you will be writing your own vows. They will know at what point the vows fit best and they may even ask you about this before you tell them. Definitely read the vows aloud to yourself to be sure they sound well and if you’re comfortable, have a friend or family member read them or listen to them for you.
Most important: Be yourself. Think about the things you love most about your partner and why you want to spend the rest of your life with them. This is your moment to speak from the heart so take time preparing these thoughts and your vows will make the event all the more special.